Experiencing a miscarriage is a profoundly challenging event for any parent, shrouded in misconceptions that often exacerbate the emotional turmoil. Dispelling these myths is crucial for both healing and fostering a supportive environment for those affected.
Below, we address common misconceptions and uncover the facts about its prevalence, causes, and impact on both parents.
#1: Miscarriage is Rare
Contrary to popular belief, miscarriage is not rare. It occurs in approximately 10-20% of known pregnancies, making it a relatively common experience for couples trying to conceive.
#2: Miscarriage Only Happens in Older Women
While the risk of miscarriage increases with maternal age, it can affect women of all ages. Young women in their 20s and 30s are also susceptible to miscarriages, debunking the myth that it’s an issue only older women face.
#3: Miscarriage is Always the Mother’s Fault
Many believe miscarriages result from something the mother did or didn’t do. However, most are caused by chromosomal abnormalities in the fetus, entirely beyond the mother’s control. Stress or physical exertion is rarely to blame.
#4: Only the Mother is Affected
The emotional impact of a miscarriage extends beyond the mother to include her partner. Both parents may experience profound grief and loss, underscoring the need for support for all affected individuals.
#5: A Miscarriage Prevents Future Healthy Pregnancies
Experiencing a miscarriage does not mean future pregnancies will be unsuccessful. Many women have healthy pregnancies after a miscarriage, especially when there are no underlying health conditions.
Healing and Hope After Loss: The Role of Support and Recovery
Understanding the truths behind miscarriage is essential for demystifying the experience and providing the necessary support to those affected.
It’s vital to acknowledge that miscarriages are a common part of reproductive life, affecting couples of all ages and backgrounds, and not determined by the actions of the mother alone.
The emotional toll of miscarriage affects both partners, not just the mother, and it’s important to seek support, communicate openly, and allow oneself time to grieve. Importantly, experiencing a miscarriage does not prevent the possibility of future healthy pregnancies.
As part of the healing process, considering therapies such as miscarriage massage can be beneficial, offering physical comfort and emotional solace during recovery. By addressing these misconceptions, individuals and couples can find pathways to healing and hope after the loss of a pregnancy.
Dr. Jenny Li is America trained chiropractor who specialises in sports injury, sports performance, and spinal health. She graduated from Palmer College of Chiropractic in United States, upon completion of the her post graduate program she practiced in Hong Kong and currently is practicing in Singapore.
